Tough Love

Why am I here?? Ugh!

When life changes and you are not seeing it as you could before…because it is not as it was before…there can be demanding and desperate needs for clarity.  Your vision of life is not as clear…often clouded, perhaps distorted, and it can throw you way off balance. Does this feel like you?

Does it help to be reminded…you are a spiritual being having spiritual experiences in your human body?

You are.

We’ll teach you more about this. It will bring clarity…and if you’re not ready, read along with us anyway…something so needed might just resonate!

So we ask today…

What is tough love to you?

Sara understands tough love pretty clearly. We have been tough-loving her for years with experiences that would open her mind up to the spiritual journey she is on…to see, feel, and deeply grasp the lessons Scott/Spirit throws at her time and time again. Ask her. It’s been quite an interesting life since Scott became her teacher… (She thinks interesting doesn’t really cover it!)

Spirit teaches.

Isn’t parenting one lesson after another, after another, for you as mom and dad…for the kids?

How many times did you have to teach that one lesson…then do it again five or ten different ways for the lesson to take hold? Didn’t you want your kids to get it? So the lesson would take hold in their thinking, heart, and inner voice…to become a part of who they were becoming?

Tough love is a part of life. It is Love…on a deep, deep level.

So how does Spirit teach Tough Love?

Spiritually, tough love is the way everyone in the body learns…through many, many, many human experiences. Some are beautiful, some are inspiring, some are beyond belief…and some come through broken friendships, broken hearts, divorce, loss, financial anguish, trauma, death, diagnosis, accidents…your child’s passing…your loved one’s transition. Pain… Life. 

Consider this…as you look at your own lifetime thus far…can you see the many ways you have been shown…through the most difficult, demanding, life altering, life changing experiences…glimmers of, and then more ~ strength, determination, passion, reaching out to others, changing lives, taking care of yourself, sharing love?

Is it possible Spirit uses tough love as a way of creating a better you? Even if you don’t care right now? Or maybe this is what you need right now…

We are insistent. You might know this already!  We need you to see more about your life journey, spiritual journey, soul connections, soul planning……and more.

Trust the journey. Trust love…including tough love. Your loved ones, your children…are your teachers now. Allow your missing to open up to this beautiful spiritual connection that is as real as life.   

Spirit teaches you, so perfectly soul planned for the journey you came to earth with us…to experience and grow through all that is here…and beyond. 

Trust Love. You will see more…

xoxo

Spirit

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  • Carolyn tuccio
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    One of my dearest friends just lost her grandson to a tragic accident last week. My children grew up with hers. It was her daughter’s 19 year old son. I do believe that as part of my healing I reached out to her as only someone who has had this loss could. My daughter also reached out to her daughter. She knew I was the only one who really knew her pain. I believe this was part of my soul planned life. I never thought it as tough love….it brought me back to how I felt when my grandson had his accident and I could feel her anguish but could now also see the light. Thank you Sara/Scott Spirit for helping me along my path. Much ❤️

    • Sara Ruble
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      My heart goes to your friend and her family Carolyn… Your heart, so big, so invested in the journey with your beloved grandson…is so telling of the tough love Spirit writes about. You are challenged I know, day in and day out with the many, many complexities of grief, love, endless questions and more. What you have experienced and are learning…is now being shared…gifts of the heart, helping ease another’s pain… This is a hard way to learn about life, the bigger picture, Spirit, and yet, haven’t we all needed, hoped for…someone like you Carolyn to come to the side of a friend, neighbor, colleague, even a stranger with love, insights, hugs, to help on the journey? I so admire your courage to push forward into greater awareness and understanding. Down the road you will see, I’m certain…how your lessons have taught others to see more too…and grow through their own grief. Thank you for sharing. Love to you. xoxo

  • Karen
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    Hello Sara and Scott and all our Spirits! Last night I woke up with one thought in my head……”Go read Spirit Teaches, there is a new message for you”. I was feeling so lost recently, questioning what I already have experienced with my one and only child’s passing 2 years ago…..knowing that Pam is still here, she shows her father and I signs every now and again, and coming for visits while we sleep. But then you go to “that” place, where it is so dark. It drags you down and you try and try to come back up for air. Missing her more and more……but I LOVE her more and more at the same time. Last nights message to come here and read again to reinforce that we are not alone! They ARE still right here with us….listening…teaching….LOVING! Thank you once again bringing me to the surface to breathe. It is definitely a life journey…a spiritual journey…an undying LOVE journey! Pam, Sarah and Scott…..much love!!!

    • Sara Ruble
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      Dear Karen…your heartfelt words take my breath away. Knowing you were awakened by Spirit/Pam to read our blog gives me goosebumps! Then every word you share about your journey with Pam, her signs, the darkness, missing…undying love, reinforcement, messages, Love. This is beautiful. “Missing her more and more…but I LOVE her more and more at the same time.” Yes. Yes. Yes. And then we know…more certain as we see and know more…”it is an undying LOVE journey”…even through the times of tough love, Spirit guiding us the entire time…and so we listen more closely…even in the middle of the night. Thank you, thank you Karen! xoxo

  • Linda Rechtt
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    Thank you, Sara. I needed this reminder today.
    Love to you and Scott.

    • Sara Ruble
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      I know this too Linda…the reminders are a god-send aren’t they? We cannot do this alone. We try…and then realize…I need help, I need someone else’s courage today, I need answers, insights, direction, hope…and the list goes on as we know so well. As these words flow through me…I know they will help someone. One, two, five, ten, a hundred, more? A blog on tough love…isn’t it all tough enough without adding the word “tough” to love? Those who need to read this, take the time to wonder what it means…perhaps can find what was needed today through Scott/Spirit’s all-knowing words. Tough love brought me here too. Much love my friend… xoxo

  • Sherry
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    I needed this today too ❤️
    Thanks 😇

    • Sara Ruble
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      I believe there are no coincidences Sherry… Trust what you find that resonates or helps. It is Spirit, your child working within you. We learn, we learn. Thank you for writing. xoxo

  • Donna
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    I’m feeling this tough love at the present. It feels overwhelming to try to fight the system who let my son down through medical misadventure. I truly believed that Dylan’s death from a preventable pulmonary embolism would see the medical system change. Time after time the doors have been slammed in my face. No significant change has come so others will suffer the loss of their family. Grief is the toughest love of all I know Dylan is with me and I need to hold on to the love and let go of the pain.

    • Sara Ruble
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      What I have learned myself through tough love Donna…is that I could not always see the end result or the change either. It is a huge challenge and can be heartbreaking to know this change would or could save others lives. Some things I have had to let go …and know (without a doubt) that Scott knows the reasons…the greater meaning in it all. Maybe someday I will…and you too. You are right…this is tough love.

      This spiritual journey we are on is intended to take us new places, seeing more, trusting more. It often feels like a test that is too much to take on. Give it up to the love you know so well. Give it up to Dylan. Trust the purpose is always for the greater good as well, even when we cannot see it. Hold onto the love… Yes. Thank you for sharing Donna. xoxo

  • Stephanie Robinson
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    I so look forward to new posts Sara and this really spoke to me, i slip back so often, letting the cloud of sadness diminish all the beauty around me, I thank you and Scott/spirit for putting that beauty in my life today, being reassured that yes, my Brandon is with me,helping me, guiding me, because, yes, I have grown spiritually, so much so, Brandons death put me on a search for understanding this walk, that’s how I was fortunate enough to find your blog, I always look forward to seeing a new blog

    • Sara Ruble
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      Thank you Stephanie. I know this journey is designed for us to help one another…and we never can know how that will be shown or implemented to guide or bring hope…until we see it. There is such beauty and comfort in knowing there is a bigger picture of Spirit pushing us towards connection, friendship, insights and love. Brandon is your teacher, our roles now switched in this extraordinary way. As you embrace this knowing, any of us too…we are seeing through Spirit’s eyes…into this is journey of awareness. Love to you. xoxo

  • Char Gilman
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    I have read this over and over…..I look so forward to reading these writings…..
    It came to me that it seems that life/ life lessons are tough love? As we live we are learning through our experiences, whether they are good or bad or whatever, an experience is a lesson……All of this we have soul planned before we ever came here , so we have lined up our lessons already……Also our soul mates/ family/ children,/ maybe even close friends, are there guiding us…..and sending us huge amounts of love……I am trying really hard to understand all of this, sometimes it seems clearer in my mind before I put it down…I am sometimes confused…..My Mom mind screams in my head, I want my Howard back, it’s not fair that he isn’t physically here with me…..What I am learning is, Howard is exactly where he is suppose to be…..It would be wonderful if these things we are learning would wipe away the sadness, and pain of not having our loved ones here physically….Thank you Scott/Spirit, Sara and Howard for this next lesson……

    • Sara Ruble
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      Dear Char…You have said it all right here. Yes, my friend. Your hard, hard work of trying to grasp the soul planning, Howard transitioning to Spirit, knowing he is still here…and now bringing this all together in your heart and mind…you have, you are. I see this as profound and beautiful on many levels…for you and for us, as fellow travelers on this journey. Thank you for sharing Char. Your words are powerful in helping others see their path more clearly. xoxo

  • Bobby
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    Life teaches us lessons, in many different forms, and one of the difficult ones are through “Tough Love”. I have used tough love with both family and friends. I have been to places where others have chosen tough love with me. I have chosen to walk away from relationships, cut ties, through tough love. There is no guarantee that our experience as Spirit in a human experience will be easy, in fact quite the opposite. We can not always see the meaning of all our lessons, and as you said Sara, we may need to be shown them several times until we understand. Thank you for this beautiful post Sara, and most of all your Love, friendship, understanding, and teachings… you and Scott are a blessing to all who know you!

    • Sara Ruble
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      What Spirit teaches and shares through me is always a surprise Bobby. No warning, no asking me if I feel this is a much needed topic or will be helpful. And so they have taught me…Spirit knows what we need and when. We all work at grief in our own unique ways and timing. This is not an easy topic to take in…because our tough love experiences ~ and we all will have them ~ are even more challenging in grief. To recognize these times will come, and others experience them as well, can help relieve our anguish. Thank you for sharing the lessons you know have been brought to you through tough love. We walk a path of uncertainty for quite some time…until we understand the spiritual path creates what we need…why we came here…everything with deep meaning…no coincidences… Thank you for sharing. Love to you. xoxo

  • Rhonda Andrews
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    Sara….thank you for this inspiring post. The last couple days have been tougher (probably because I just returned from vacation)., but your words remind me that I must trust and follow this journey. Missing my son so much today,, but as Char mentioned above, I know Reece is where he’s supposed to be and I am where I need to be. Thank you for all your insite. Your posts are truly uplifting and I’ll continue to trust this journey ❤️

    • Sara Ruble
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      I know vacations can throw us off center Rhonda. I’m grateful you read our blog today and found something to help bring you back to a more balanced place. I love these heartfelt comments from our readers, because we discover hidden or confusing parts of ourselves that are then revealed or answered through someone else’s questions or experiences. Trust the journey will take you, bring you, show you where you need to be as you grow in awareness…that is the plan. Thank you for sharing with us. xoxo

  • Diane Romagnoli
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    Sara, reflecting on the lesson that Scott/Spirit delivered through you and the support and sage advice you share helps me to look at Tough Love square in the eyes today and ask myself “what is Spirit trying to teach me/guide me to here?” True to form, I’ve learned through this journey , the lessons are doled out according to what I can absorb and accept at present, helping me to deepen my growth and healing. You mentioned and I have experienced, if I do not take heed the first time around, the lesson will come back and back again, in many different ways. until my awareness nudged. Like grief’s many layers, I experience the layers in lessons as well. Feelings of uncomfortable-ness are my tell that I need to pay attention. The greater the sense of uncomfortable-ness, the deeper the healing gift I am blessed with when the knowledge and wisdom are finally delivered. Feels like one giant step forward in my journey. I can feel blocked energy in my throat right now and I have been unable to release it. I have to stop and take a look back at what my learnings have been through this grief journey so far; the uncomfortable-ness eased in the past from all the help and support I’ve received from many beautiful souls, especially yours, along with guidance from Spirit. The feeling of being uncomfortable plays havoc with my rationality, my memory and my experiences. This is temporary, this restlessness, this impatience. With that said, I’m remembering what I have to do. I’m going to be silent as Silence speaks in the quiet of grief, I’m going to give a shout out to Patience as she coaxes Experience along. I am extending thanks for the resources I know I have, and will be filled with with even more so as Experience hands the baton to Awareness, finding her place in line again allowing for the delivery of Knowledge and Wisdom that will clear this uncomfortable-ness. Looking forward to that moment of Insight . . .

    I needed to share and ask for a “there, there little cub” as Tough Love works me over . . . one more time. So very grateful that you are here, Spirit is here and now I am as well. Sending much Love.

    • Sara Ruble
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      Such powerful and thought-provoking words, my dear friend! You have literally illustrated your lesson…and your knowing of what you need to do…as you struggle with the uncomfortable-ness you feel. We all will come to this place at some point…and are never quite sure of how to sit with it, fight it, ignore it…or? Tough love will teach us in deep ways. It is meant to stop us, force us to question…listen…call out for help…and it will come back, as every important spiritual lesson will…to teach and grow us.
      Our children are very aware of the goings on within each of us…and will sit with us as we work through these unknown places…just as you know Matty is with you Diane… Much love. Thank you… xoxo

  • Irene
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    Thank you for this message Sara/Scott/Spirit. These reminders help to keep bringing me back to being a soul, away from the tendency to be stuck as a human in the human world. Irene x

    • Sara Ruble
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      Dear Irene…It is a journey of back and forth for each of us. Trust me. It is a challenge of shifting our thinking away from everything being a human experience…to seeing ourselves as Spirit having human experiences. We are on the threshold of major changes in our societies, moving away from old terminology in grief to the new. Ultimately it is a beautiful and needed change. We are the explorers in this now…taking it step by step.
      Love yourself Irene, for taking these steps, for moving into the unknown world of grief and absorbing what you are learning with spiritual awareness. It is an important aspect towards greater understanding and healing. One day at a time my friend. You are loved. xox

  • Sarah Aumann
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    And I love everyone’s comments and then your replies, again!

    • Sara Ruble
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      We learn everyone is a teacher Sarah! xoxo

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